Favorite TweetStuff (05/20/11)

It’s Friday! (Yay…) Every week I rescue the beautiful, bizarre, funny, and just plain “wow” items from my Tweet stream. It just seems like the right thing to do. :) Enjoy!
 

Endeavour Roundup

 

@nprnews Amazing Shots Of Shuttle Endeavour (via @NASATweetup)

@AmazingPics Great Endeavor Shuttle Launch Photo

@Jason_Pollock AMAZING photo of @Nasa launch coincidentally taken by @Stefmara from an airplane window!

@heykim COOL ~ Space Shuttle Does A ‘Backflip’ (time-condensed video)

 

The Rest of the ‘Stuff’

 

@zebraspolkadots “Our thoughts are the colors, our words the artists brush, our lives the canvas that contains our creation.”

@pourmecoffee “No offense, but I feel like I won’t lose a lot of followers to the rapture, so that’s good.”

@heykim ❤ I love this video
[SEO: This is about a howling dog and a baby. That’s all I’m going to say. :)]

@MindfulBoston “Men might be from Mars. Women might be from Venus. But Rock Stars are from Jupiter. And aliens are from Boston.”

@dailysquotes “What the world needs is more geniuses with humility, there are so few of us left.” ~ Oscar Levant

@pourmecoffee Hard to believe this is an unaltered photo, but it is.

@LillyAnn “You know what’s an integral part of writing? Besides coffee and not writing? Pacing. Back and forth. Wearing a hole in the floor.”

@Tamavista “Sitting quietly, doing nothing, spring comes and the grass grows by itself.” ~ Zen

@rcinstitute The natural beauty of pendulums in motion
[SEO: I’m sure it’s totally mathematical, but it’s pretty awesome to watch these varying-length pendulums interact with each other, to the point where the pattern completes itself in about 60 seconds. And begins again.]

@Quotes4Writers “Listening to both sides of a story will convince you that there is more to a story than both sides.” ~ Frank Tyger

@LillyAnn “OVERHEARD cell convo: ‘Dude, I’m in the library… Where do I find a dictionary… I don’t know man, there’s just so many books.’ Yes, Really.”

 

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Mental Health Month Blog Party: Two Kinds Of Stigma

This post is offered as part of the Mental Health Month Blog Party today, May 18, 2011. You can find basic mental health resources at that link if you scroll down the page. You can also follow this Blog Party topic on Twitter today by searching for the hashtag #mhblogday.

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We should be long past the day when people are ostracized, ridiculed or feared for having a mental illness. But things which are difficult to see or to control are scary for some people, which says more about them than the people of whom they are fearful. We live in a culture that vilifies a lot of sometimes helpless and often unfortunate people: the homeless, people with AIDS, people with mental illnesses. People who often don’t have the financial or social support to overcome their situation.

Stigma: a. a mark of disgrace or infamy; a stain or reproach, as on one’s reputation. b. a mental or physical mark that is characteristic of a defect or disease

Mental illness stigma has been a part of society for thousands of years. While we live in a time where people with mental illness are more free to talk about it and to find support than ever before, old assumptions and prejudgments die hard.

I see two types of mental illness stigma operating today. There’s the macro: generalized against segments of the population, it usually includes a few specific notorious people who are egged on by the media to act out in ways which serve to enforce stereotypes about all people with that condition. These are people who don’t represent us in any way, but create a cumulative impression upon the public about mental illness.

But there’s also the micro: what we, who are challenged with mental illnesses, often tell ourselves when discouraged and feeling hopeless. We internalize the stigma of mental illness into our already fragile existence. We accuse ourselves of being tainted, or defective, as a result of having a mental illness. And we supply ourselves with all the ‘evidence’ of why this is true.

After so many years of therapy and progress, it still amazes me how quickly I can fall into that pit, berating myself for being different in all the wrong ways, for being stupid and not good enough, for not being normal. Yes, we’ve all heard that normal isn’t such a great standard to shoot for, especially in an age when normal seems to equate to dumbed down conformity. I’m talking about the kind of normal that my husband has, who falls fast asleep within 30 seconds of hitting the pillow. As someone who still battles PTSD, I long to be that kind of normal! And even the longing is fine until it turns into an internal Sarah-bashing opportunity.

When I hear someone publicly perpetuate the stigma of mental illness, I ask: would you say that about someone with cancer? Would you blame that person for having cancer? Would you ridicule them? Would you make light of or ignore their problems? Would you say they are defective or tainted? Is a person with cancer not good enough because she has chronic insomnia?

There’s a thing of compassion where right-minded people would not think of treating a person with cancer this way. I owe myself nothing less than that same compassion. To do otherwise perpetuates my own micro version of stigma.

I refuse to participate in that any longer.

 

 

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Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors (05/13/11)

Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors is a weekly Friday feature. My selections are entirely subjective, and I know it will never be possible to include every great resource tweeted. But I can try! I’ve personally read all tweeted links, and believe them to be of great value.

Disclaimer: I am in no way responsible for content found on any other website. Stay safe, and don’t follow links if you believe you might be triggered by them. Also, I will not be re-checking links from older Best Tweets posts, and if the site’s archived URL is different from the one I’ve provided here, you may need to do a search on their site.

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I am again “picture-less”, and will remain so until the photo memory thing gets straightened out, and I am overcome by the joy of self-hosting my blog. … Did I say that? ;)
 
 

Six Standalone Tweets to Ponder

@thereseborchard “Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would like to see you living in better conditions.” ~ Khwajeh Shams al-Din Muhammad Hafez-e Shirazi

@LillyAnn “You are the tree falling in the forest. Stop worrying so much about who’s listening and get on with making some noise.”

@Tamavista “It is only by risking … that we live at all.” ~ William James

@HealingToolKit “Ever have a negative thought pop into your head uninvited? Ask yourself what emotion is attached and watch shift happen.”

@CarePathways “Growing spiritually is like walking up the down escalator; if we’re not moving forward, we’re sliding backwards.”

@drdebbiegrove “To live mindfully is to work at not letting the past or the future cling too tightly to you.”

 

Linked Tweets

Woefully Inadequate Governmental Priorities

 

@PsychologyNow VA Mental Health Care is So Bad, It’s Unconstitutional: So says a 3-judge panel
[SEO: This is shameful. “According to the article on TIME.com about the recent ruling, not only do some vets have to wait weeks to get in to see a mental health professional at many VA medical centers, but there’s often no significant triaging done. Actively suicidal vets may not get the care they need, before it’s too late. The result? Nearly one-third of the vets who end up committing suicide do so while under VA care. But two-thirds aren’t even being seen by the VA for a mental health concern.”]

@APAHelpCenter “Traumatized children now do not even receive a proper mental health assessment…”
[SEO: Do you see a pattern here? In the previous article, it was severely underfunded mental health needs of vets. This New York Times op-ed by Bessel A. van der Kolk (a heavy hitter in the field of trauma psychology) protests the proposed funding cuts in treating traumatized children.

“Inspired by the work of the National Center for PTSD, Congress authorized the establishment of the National Child Traumatic Stress Network in 2001 to evaluate and develop treatments for traumatized children nationwide, with a budget that is now $40 million — about the cost of keeping 40 soldiers fighting in Afghanistan for one year. President Obama’s 2012 budget has proposed a 70 percent reduction in financing for the network. That would be devastating for these children. The network has knitted together 130 clinics and universities in 38 states that specialize in helping traumatized children and adolescents. It has allowed the members to develop treatment programs and to hire and educate the staff to run them, enabling 322,000 children nationwide to get treatment from July 2002 to September 2009.”]

We, as a nation, owe so much more to our vets, and need to insist that our Congresspeople do the right thing by them. And we, as a nation, seriously need to take care of our children, because as Van der Kolk says, “Untreated, traumatized children become failing adults who populate our jails and overwhelm our human services agencies. Cutting the development of effective treatments will produce many years of increasing costs and unquantifiable human misery.”

 

The Rest of the Best

 

@DrBeckerSchutte Choices: A Powerful Influence on Depression. This powerful testimony captures the paradox of depression. (via @abeeliever)
[SEO: This new blog, Depression Diaries, is hosted by Amy Kiel, aka @abeeliever. She examines the notion that even in the depths of depression, we have choices available that can lessen the severity, or even prevent the lowest of the lows from occurring. “Even though I live with depression on some level on a daily basis, I can make daily choices to feel more powerful and be better armed for a surprise attack. I choose to eat foods that are healthy. I choose to participate in more in social activities. I choose to take time to myself and relax. I choose to do these things not because it cures my depression, but because it helps to protect me from it and to recuperate when times are extra tough.”]

@kruby 7 Ways That You Can Relax Right Now (via @AlwaysWellWithn)
[SEO: Although this post was written with an aim toward getting through year-end holidays, its tips are a little refresher course in relaxation year-round.]

@goodthingz 3 Ways Letting Go of Control Improves Your Life
[SEO: “When we control excessively, we are attempting to alter life’s moving currents and rhythm. When we do this, we are unable to see options and make choices that would significantly change our lives emotionally, creatively and financially. We become imprisoned by our fears, anger and resentment and are thus not open to the wonders that await us.”]

@SarahEOlson2009 Why Does Criticism Carry More Weight Than Praise?
[SEO: A detailed look at how we deal with criticism and praise. “Praise is nice but mostly rolls off my back while one solid criticism — even sensitively expressed — can put me in the fetal position. Is this just me?” No, we all live in a society which stresses performance and perfection, so it seems to impact a lot of people. But I’ll go out on a limb and say it impacts most trauma survivors proportionately more, if for no other reason than that we are hyper-aware of our vulnerabilities and flaws, and what we consider our failings. External criticism instantly validates them, and many trauma survivors don’t have the self-esteem or basic tools to defend against even good intentions, much less, maliciousness.

I strongly disagree with the author here: “And by good [criticism], I mean on the mark and not stupid. Because, of course, the criticism that hurts the most is the criticism that we know, deep down, is accurate.” I don’t know what “normal” people do with this, but a child abuse survivor’s concept of “accurate criticism” is so twisted and manipulated from very early in life that probably the opposite is more accurate. Beyond that, accuracy should not be conflated with “hurts the most”. That’s just a doorway to more abuse.]

@DrCarlHindy Even If We Could Erase Bad Memories, Should We?
[SEO: “In a study published in the April 27 issue of the Journal of Neuroscience, a team of UCLA researchers reported that they’d actually discovered a way to erase long-term memories — at least when experimenting on small marine snails and on the snails’ neurons in petri dishes.” While science is a long way from implementing this in humans, it opens a discussion of the ethics, and probable unintended consequences, of even trying to do this. “I also wonder if it’s really possible to eliminate significant memories, even ones that are traumatic, and erase only the pain and damage — and not also an important piece of who that person is or has become.” In addition to discussing the identity issue, other current research projects aimed at reducing the fear behind traumatic memories are noted. Lots to think about for trauma survivors.]

@DeborahSerani Why antidepressants stop working (via @ssanquist)
[SEO: “One of the current theories for why antidepressants stop working is that over time the genes that produce enzymes that regulate the metabolism of medications become upregulated and consequently produce more enzymes.” Also discusses why, if you go off an antidepressant for awhile and then try it again, it may not be as effective the second time around.]

@psychcentral Thinking about meeting with your partner’s therapist? Some things you should consider.
[SEO: This post is written for the partner of someone in therapy, with the assumption that this person is healthy and supportive of their partner’s quest for better mental health. It describes why such a meeting can be beneficial for both people in the relationship, as well as give the therapist more information about family dynamics, etc. Offers a list of what you, the partner, should and should not do during a joint therapy session. If you are the person in therapy, and want to bring your partner into a therapy session, give them a copy of this article.]

 

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Favorite TweetStuff (05/13/11)

Each Friday I gather up all the funny, sweet, astonishing, weird, and beautiful things I see in my Twitter stream. It’s all here today! Enjoy!
 

@AlwaysWellWithn “If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.” ~ Gandhi

@ChristianElliot We are getting such a positive response from “Can You See Me?” (via @ssanquist and @Splinteredones)
[SEO: A flash mob with a purpose in London. Can you really see this little girl? See her pain? She is the embodiment of Love146.org — dedicated to end child sex slavery and exploitation. An uplifting and moving experience!]

@LillyAnn “Cynicism isn’t smarter, it’s only safer. There’s nothing fluffy about optimism.” ~ Jewel

@Quotes4Writers “Writing is the hardest work in the world not involving heavy lifting.” ~ Pete Hamill

@brainpicker Stunning timelapse of North American cities at night hints at the duality between city and nature

@LoriMoreno Who cares if you’re enlightened forever? Can you just get it in this moment, now? ~ Byron Katie

@rcinstitute Amazing “dancing magnetics”
[SEO: Things that make you go ‘hmmm’.]

@larryczerwonka “All truly great thoughts are conceived while walking.” ~ Fredrich Nietzsche

@rcinstitute Wisp, the one-year-old pop sensation from Britain
[SEO: “The latest craze to hit the music world is one year old r’n’b artist Wisp! Before Wisp could even talk he was singing and dancing and designing clothes.”]

@GabrielaKortsch “The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking spaces.” ~ Will Rodgers

@heykim AWESOME ~ fiddle made from Mother’s Day PINK BAT is used to play the national anthem!

@Tamavista “It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important.” ~ Saint-Exupery

@Quotes4Writers “To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” ~ Anatole France

@ShareAwakening “Live so that you wouldn’t be ashamed to sell the family parrot to the town gossip.” ♥ Will Rogers

@SarahEOlson2009 Kitten vs a Scary Thing! Very scary! (does not need to be translated, either)

@Tamavista “Let your soul stand cool & composed before a million universes.” ~ Walt Whitman

@heykim SPEECHLESS (via @jennilly24) (YouTube)
[SEO: Seven year old Olivia on “Britain’s Got Talent” is going places! Not only does she deliver an impassioned poem about saving animals — with a twist I will not spoil for you — but she insists that the cheering audience let her finish it. And she does, with grace far beyond her years. Brava!]

 

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Houston, We Have a Problem…

I’ve been struggling for a month to determine why WordPress will not allow me to upload new pictures with my blog posts. My blog host has been repeatedly, and spectacularly, unhelpful. Last week, even pictures that had previously been uploaded okay began to spontaneously resize themselves all over their respective blog posts. Have I mentioned, this kind of thing makes me nuts?

I finally took it to my blog guy (Joel is a gem!), who helped to narrow the focus to the point where this weekend I’ll be deleting and attempting to re-upload revised pictures all over my blog. I soooo hope this works!

In the meantime, the blog will stay up, but you still might see some wacky looking images here and there while this process is occurring.

Thank you in advance for your patience! Can I borrow it for awhile? ;)
 

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Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors (05/06/11)

Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors is a weekly Friday feature. My selections are entirely subjective, and I know it will never be possible to include every great resource tweeted. But I can try! I’ve personally read all tweeted links, and believe them to be of great value.

Disclaimer: I am in no way responsible for content found on any other website. Stay safe, and don’t follow links if you believe you might be triggered by them. Also, I will not be re-checking links from older Best Tweets posts, and if the site’s archived URL is different from the one I’ve provided here, you may need to do a search on their site.

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Best Tweets 02/25/11 Pondering

Photo Credit

@CarePathways “We promote, project, and
show others only what we wish for them to see.
Is it not time to remove the mask
for we are hurting?”

 

Standalone Tweets

@thereseborchard “With ordinary talent and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.” ~ Thomas Foxwell Buxton

@Tamavista “To think is easy. To act is difficult. To act as one thinks is the most difficult of all.” ~ Goethe

@karenkmmonroy “Being separate from life in your mind is an illusion — but that doesn’t mean it isn’t dangerous and doesn’t have effects.”

@FamousWomen “Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

@ShiftYourLife “Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.”

@LillyAnn “Live as though your life makes a difference, because it does.”

 

Linked Tweets

Announcements

 

@NAMIMass Join the Mental Health Month Blog Party May 18; blog about mental health and reduce stigma.
[SEO: “Join us on May 18 and publish a post on your blog about mental health’s importance, how we can diminish stigma, or the challenges of making lifestyle and behavior changes. Tell your story. Share your experience. Mental health affects everything we do. No matter what you regularly blog about, there’s a way to incorporate mental health.”

See the post for more details, two of which involve a cool badge you can add to your post/sidebar; and, if you let them know about your post, the APA Health Center will link back to your blog on their site. (Mine is still there from last year!) Contact them @APAHelpCenter on Twitter, and use the hashtag #mhblogday on May 18th for further recognition.]

@healingtrauma Free or low cost medications from “Patient Assistance Program Center”
[SEO: The economy is not getting better for anyone that I know. If you’re having trouble paying for your prescription meds, this site maintains a searchable database to help you find assistance. If you enter a name of drug, it will give you the manufacturer’s name and requirements you must meet to be eligible. You can also do a multiple drug search, and look up their PAP Directory listings. Check out the “Additional Help” and FAQ tabs for more resources.]

 

The Rest of the Best

 

@craigmo2 Guide to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
[SEO: While this is posted on a site related to veterans, the research, fact sheets, and support resources linked here provide a wide range of info about PTSD — regardless of cause. I have not yet followed every link listed, but plan to.]

@PTSDdotOrg The Relationship between PTSD and Worry (via @akvet)
[SEO: I’ve never looked at worry this way — and probably should. “…Given that worry may temporarily bring down arousal and can distract people from more emotionally-distressing topics, people with PTSD may worry in order to obtain some relief from their distress. In fact, one study found that desires to avoid emotions explained the association between PTSD and worry. Unfortunately, as with other emotionally avoidant coping strategies, this relief will be short-lived.”]

@AngArtemis The Tenuous Nature of Self-Love (via @AlwaysWellWithn)
[SEO: An examination of what shapes our capacity for self-love, and a detailed look at what you can do to increase it. “Most tenuous relationships with self-love stem from how we were spoken to as children. If you’re taught that you are only worthy of being loved if you measured up or didn’t disappoint you will hear a negative voice in your head scolding you for the rest of your life until you become conscious of it. Once you identify that voice as the ‘false copy cat’ that it is you can truly begin to work on the relationship of loving yourself. The first thing to do is realize that you are not that voice.

@Mindful_Living A Question to Balance Your Brain
[SEO: “… We all have a built in automatic negativity bias that’s been wired into us for the purpose of keeping us safe. … If you’re depressed, you’ll find this way of seeing life even more instinctual and believable. However, when it comes to our emotional lives this isn’t always the most effective auto-responder. So what can we do to balance out our brains?”]

@goodthingz Manage Stress by Making Room for Peace and Tranquility
[SEO: “If we keep adding more to our already full plate, it can cause chronic stress, which will inevitably lead to exhaustion and burnout. Before these plates come crashing down, make room for peace and tranquility in your life. Here are a few suggestions to help bring awareness to the level of stress you may be dealing with, and to develop a plan to manage it.”]

@mistygirlph 5 Tips To Turn A Bad Day Into A Good Day
[SEO: “It can be really hard when we experience those days when things just don’t go the way we want them to. What’s even worse are those days when it feels like everything is falling apart around us. When I was younger and this happened, I always ended up feeling frustrated, and sometimes I even had the feeling that I was a failure.” Tips to turn it around, or if that can’t happen, to move on from it.]

@psychcentral Does Your Therapist “Got The Gift”?
[SEO: The “gift” being, an ability to actively listen to you. Post describes what active listening is, and why therapists need it as a component of good therapy. Also read the comments where the author clarifies another commenter’s issue with active listening being the only skill a therapist brings to your session.]

@goodthingz 5 Simple Ways to Overcome Insomnia
[SEO: “Through the years I have come up with certain things that help, but most importantly I find the key is to never look at insomnia as a battle. Once we start fighting to get to sleep the battle is already lost.”]

@psychcentral A touching post on how one of our bloggers found strength and liberation by feeling her feelings
[SEO: “We think that not feeling our feelings keeps us unscathed. It ‘keeps the ugliness’ from coming up and doing further damage. … I have things to do. And I can’t fall apart right now. Not even a glimmer, not even a chard of glass can fall from my fortress. Because, then, well, then, the whole thing I’ve built up so diligently, so perfectly, will shatter.”]

 

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