New Blog Added to Dissociation Blog Showcase! (DBS)

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We have amazing writers amongst us who give insight and hope to anyone struggling with dissociation, or to their loved ones. It’s a brain trust, and I treasure it. When I find new blogs, I usually update the Dissociation Blog Showcase (DBS) on Sunday evenings. Tonight I’ve added the following new blog:

Growing Pains In Christ

Please use the DBS link above to access this blog, and check out the entire directory of (approximately) 195 dissociation-related blogs! As always, be careful and stay safe. Many of these blogs do not provide trigger warnings, nor are they obligated to do so.

Still on the way: I’ve received requests for inclusion of some DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) information and awareness sites, which are not “blogs” per se. I’m still planning to add a new section for these types of sites to the index, so please let me know if you have any favorites. (The two sites currently in the queue are DID World Map and DIDiva.com.) Thanks!

If you, or someone you know, experiences dissociation and blog about it, write to me with the URL at sarah.e.olsonATgmailDOTcom . I review each blog before adding it to the Showcase.

Thanks so much for the feedback and well-wishes for this project!

 

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Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors (09/30/11)

Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors is a weekly Friday feature. My selections are entirely subjective, and I know it will never be possible to include every great resource tweeted. But I can try! I’ve personally read all tweeted links, and believe them to be of great value.

Disclaimer: I am in no way responsible for content found on any other website. Stay safe, and don’t follow links if you believe you might be triggered by them. Also, I will not be re-checking links from older Best Tweets posts, and if the site’s archived URL is different from the one I’ve provided here, you may need to do a search on their site.

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Best Tweets 093011 Silent Bench at Sea

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@LillyAnn “Everything that will happen
belongs to the domain of the uncertain.
Live now.” ~ Seneca

 
 

Six Standalone Tweets to Ponder

 

@Tamavista “The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.” ~ Sonya Friedman

@soulseedz “Our unresolved issues will continue to repeat themselves until we make a conscious choice to change the script.”

@Good_Therapy “When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this: you haven’t.” ~ Thomas Edison

@back2incomplete “You will never know how great you can be until you push your own boundaries.”

@HealthyPlace “Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye.” ~ H. Jackson Brown Jr

@visityourself “For ways in which you’ve been harsh on yourself today, ask your own forgiveness.”

 

Linked Tweets

 

In the News

 

@Mindful_Living Invitation: Get Your Story Posted on the Mindfulness and Psychotherapy Blog
[SEO: This is an open ongoing invitation to send to Dr. Goldstein “stories of mindfulness that can show the rest of us how it has had a practical impact on a particular event or their lives.” He intends to make this a weekly feature, if there is enough of a response. See the post for his very few requirements.]

@800273talk Journalists: Read this before you write another story about suicide
[SEO: Guidelines for journalists in what to do and say to responsibly report on suicide — which would behoove any of us who write about suicide to also pay attention. For the complete set of guidelines see The Media Guidelines for Safe Reporting on Suicide (PDF).]

@SarahEOlson2009 Psychiatric News Alert: Economic Recession Triggers More Abusive Head Trauma in Children
[SEO: Just one more data point in the many ways that declining opportunities in a bad economy can lead to increased levels of child abuse. Although the study specifically states it found no correlation between increased abusive head trauma and unemployment, increased unemployment is part and parcel of an economic recession. Those dots are easily connected.]

@psychcentral World Mental Health Day Blog Party, Oct 10th
[SEO: “Psych Central is proud to host the first blog party devoted to World Mental Health Day, October 10, 2011. Bloggers from around the world will come together on this day to help spread their stories and educate others about mental health concerns, decrease the prejudice and stigma that is often directed toward mental illness, and discuss things that help a person overcome their disorder or mental health concern.”

Your blog need not always focus on mental health issues to be able to participate. Also at this link is the official badge to add to your blog’s sidebar. On October 10th: “Tweet us @psychcentral to let us know about your blog entry, or email our special email address for this event: blogparty at psychcentral.com. Use the hashtag #mhblogday on your tweets.” I’m in! Are you?]

 

The Rest of the Best

 

@ssanquist Finding the Right Match With the Right Therapist
[SEO: These six questions to ask your therapist are subjective, in that there isn’t “one” answer to any of them. A lot depends upon how you honestly perceive both your therapist and your relationship with him/her. “Such feelings are important and you need to pay attention to them because studies have shown that the quality of the therapeutic relationship contributes to how well therapy works.”

One of the commenters asks what I think should be the seventh question: How do you know if you’re the problem, or the therapist? In my experience, a good therapist is willing to discuss these questions openly, without defensiveness. In a good therapeutic relationship, it’s all part of the process.]

@goodthingz The 3 Vital Keys To Unlocking Yourself From Fear
[SEO: A step by step path to disarming fear that runs your life. It’s a very logical, intellectual exercise, which may be part of its point. “Living in fear feels bad — have you noticed? Decisions fueled by ‘I can’t’ and ‘I shouldn’t’ bring only confusion and dissatisfaction to our lives. We lose focus, let go of our dreams, and accept mediocre as good enough.”]

@arttherapy What Music Therapy Can Do for Health, Disability and Trauma
[SEO: A comprehensive overview of the many ways music therapy — teamed with new technology — can aid in learning, processing, focus, pain relief, and creativity. An interesting read, plus: “If you want to know more about music therapy, please visit the American Music Therapy Association’s (AMTA) newly redesigned website. Here you can find music therapy news stories and videos, fact sheets, bibliographies, music therapy publications and other products in our online store, and information on how to find your very own music therapist.”]

@psychcentral 5 Ways To Escape An Abusive Relationship
[SEO: Discusses in detail each of the following points: Acknowledge the existence of abuse; Reach out for help; Use a safe computer; Make every effort to address the underlying issues that led you to being in a dysfunctional relationship; and Get to the bottom of things. I don’t believe any of these points can be selectively ignored if you are in an abusive relationship.

It is vital to acknowledge, explore and heal what led you to this pattern. Otherwise, you are doomed to repeat it. [Emphasis in original] Take a break from relationships for a while. Taking the time to heal is so important. If you have children, they need time to recuperate from the trauma of witnessing abuse. It is normal for you to feel angry and sad, as well as regret that you left the abuser.”]

@NAMIMass What Is Anger Trying To Tell You About Your Life
[SEO: Gabrielle Gawne-Kelnar’s posts always resonate for me. She writes in a sort of therapeutic stream-of-consciousness that provides a road map to get to her main point. In this case, if you can identify all the usual questions about the how’s and why’s of your anger, she then encourages you to consider the age of your anger, followed closely by what age would best help you start to resolve the anger issue at hand. (Meaning, were you six when something angered you so deeply it still affects you? Trying to resolve it with a six year old’s mindset probably leaves you still stuck.)

“[With practice,] next time anger’s upon you, you’ll have a better chance of really choosing your response — a response that brings you closer to resolving what hurt you in the first place — rather than just being captive to a knee-jerk reaction that often just keeps the damage going. … Right there, when all your buttons are being pushed, is exactly the time that something you really value is usually centre stage. So, in a way, anger is like a signpost, pointing directly to the moments, the values, that matter most to you.”

 
 

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Favorite TweetStuff (09/30/11) ~ Enjoy! ~

End of week, end of month. Autumn in New England is right around the corner! My favorite time of year — but that’s a future TweetStuff! Every Friday I post favorite finds from my Tweet stream, which may be beautiful, thought-provoking, funny, or just weird. I like it all! ;) Enjoy!
 

@TorontoWebDepot “The more I want to get something done, the less I call it work.”

@stefanlevesque Beautiful Photos of Buildings In The Heart of Nature
[SEO: These folks really wanted to get away from it all.]

@pourmecoffee “Red Sox 2011 season is most bizarre Boston ending since Tommy Westphall dreamed up St. Elsewhere.”
[SEO: Ouch!]

@mjdub 50 Wonders Of The Ancient and Medieval World
[SEO: I’ve seen only a couple of these in person. I love this stuff.]

@Tamavista “It is not what you are called, but what you answer to.” ~ African proverb

@heykim ★ Dying to see this (via @chloroformdays @Alyssa_Milano)
[SEO: The trailer for documentary “Being Elmo: A Puppeteer’s Journey”, a look at the kid who played with puppets, emulated Jim Henson, and grew up to become the voice (and hand) of Elmo.]

 

@Quotes4Writers “I’m not sure a bad person can write a good book. If art doesn’t make us better, then what on earth is it for?” ~ Alice Walker

@MrDaveLaws 20 Stunning 3D Wall Murals Art (via @mjdub)
[SEO: Some of these wall murals look so real — a kind of ‘you are there’ depth perception — that I’m sure people have just walked into them. Incredible talent here.]

@Tao23 “As far as I can tell, the main component of success is doing stuff that perhaps anyone *could* do, but doing it consistently.”

@ashwinsanghi Around the World in 80 Seconds
[SEO: Well, sort of. Photos from “Tobu World Square, a theme park in Japan which features (tiny) famous monuments and locations from around the world, all within easy walking distance.”]

@Tamavista “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.” ~ Carl Rogers

@Tao23 “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing” ~ Elbert Hubbard

 
 

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Three New Blogs Added to Dissociation Blog Showcase! (DBS)

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We have amazing writers amongst us who give insight and hope to anyone struggling with dissociation, or to their loved ones. It’s a brain trust, and I treasure it. When I find new blogs, I usually update the Dissociation Blog Showcase (DBS) on Sunday evenings. Tonight I’ve added the following three new blogs:

A Multitude of Musings

Eliza is …

Journey of the Broken Pieces

Please use the DBS link above to access these blogs, and check out the entire directory of (approximately) 190 dissociation-related blogs! As always, be careful and stay safe. Many of these blogs do not provide trigger warnings, nor are they obligated to do so.

Still on the way: I’ve received requests for inclusion of some DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) information and awareness sites, which are not “blogs” per se. I’m still planning to add a new section for these types of sites to the index, so please let me know if you have any favorites. (The two sites currently in the queue are DID World Map and DIDiva.com.) Thanks!

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Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors (09/23/11)

Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors is a weekly Friday feature. My selections are entirely subjective, and I know it will never be possible to include every great resource tweeted. But I can try! I’ve personally read all tweeted links, and believe them to be of great value.

Disclaimer: I am in no way responsible for content found on any other website. Stay safe, and don’t follow links if you believe you might be triggered by them. Also, I will not be re-checking links from older Best Tweets posts, and if the site’s archived URL is different from the one I’ve provided here, you may need to do a search on their site.

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Best Tweets 092311 Golden Vintage Clock

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@MindfulBoston “Life is made out of moments.
How many of your moments are spent
planning for other moments
rather than being fully lived?”

 

Six Standalone Tweets to Ponder

 

@karenkmmonroy “Illusions of the world lead to illusions of self, which lead to illusions of the world…. Know self, dissipate the illusions.”

@soulseedz “When you numb the dark, you also numb the light. As you take the edge off pain, you also take the edge off joy.”

@ilawton “Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.” ~ Mark Twain

@Tamavista “I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.” ~ Maya Angelou

@AlwaysWellWithn “vulnerability + personal power = authenticity”

@dailysquotes “It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis.” ~ Margaret Bonnano

 

Linked Tweets

 

@mdvagov At VA, every week is Suicide Prevention Week. Vets and families can call 1-800-273-8255 and press 1, 24/7, 365 days a year.
[SEO: If you are a vet who is having trouble coping, or if you know one, the VA has resources to help you. As the linked article says, “You have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.”]

@healingtrauma 50 Best Blogs on Bullying
[SEO: Arranged in the following categories: General Blogs on Bullying; Workplace Bullying; Reporting Bullying; Professional Blogs on Bullying; and Forums on Bullying.]

@HealthyPlace Importance of Psychiatric Crisis Planning. New Mental Health for the Digital Generation vlog (post and video)
[SEO: Excellent resource. “A few years ago, I was hospitalized and I don’t feel that I was given the proper care by the hospital and I was certainly not in any state to take care of myself. If I had a crisis plan in place, my family could have worked with my doctor to make sure that I received the proper treatment and care at the hospital and that I had a plan in place for after I was discharged.”

“Here are the links to a sample crisis plan (PDF) and a blank crisis plan (PDF) for you to fill out. Be sure to fill it out when you are doing well and can think clearly. Give a copy of your plan to everyone in your support network – like your close family and friends, your psychiatrist and your therapist.” Watch the video for more details of what to include in your crisis plan.]

@thereseborchard 21 Ways to Overcome Disappointment
[SEO: “Disappointments leave us with the unpleasant task of squashing, crushing, and pinching lemons to extract any and all juice.” A helpful, albeit sometimes snarky, look at ways to deal with disappointment. (Sometimes snark qualifies as a coping mechanism! ;)]

@Mindful_Living 5 Keys to Preparing for Fall and Winter Blues
[SEO: “When it comes to seasonal affective disorder (SAD) or just being negatively affected by less light or shorter days, this is a great opportunity to get your ducks in a row to stave off a depressive slide.” Post discusses: mindfulness training; exercise; light therapy; gratitude list; and connect. “This is about nurturing your life, it’s about creating resiliency and most of all about getting in touch with what really matters.”]

@SarahEOlson2009 Who Do You Let In? Defining Your Boundaries And Staying Safe But Not Isolated
[SEO: Using the metaphor of keys, post discusses how boundaries are defined, and why it’s good to periodically assess who has the keys to your inside self — or doesn’t — and why. Including yourself. “Are there perhaps places no-one holds the keys to? Places you maybe even keep locked away from yourself? Places that seem too dark, too cold, too overwhelming to enter, so you’ve locked them up, boarded them up and maybe even been tempted to throw the keys away? What might it take to make those spaces feel safe enough for you?”]

@NAMIMass Why Don’t Psychiatrists Like To Show Patients Their Notes?
[SEO: “Why don’t psychiatrists like to show patients their notes? Are they really going to ‘harm’ the patient?” Contains a bullet list of possible reasons why a psychiatrist may not wish to share notes with a patient. See also the comments by several patients about their attempts to obtain their doctor’s notes, and others who state why they don’t want or need to see their doctor’s notes.]

@HealthyPlace Post-Abuse Issues With Children
[SEO: Written by a woman who left her abusive spouse, she writes with aching honesty of how being in an abusive relationship impacts her children, even nearly two years away from it. It’s a cliche that kids are resilient; in fact, they also tend to take in abusive damage quite deeply.

Ignoring it does not make it go away, it can just make children feel more alone. “They’ve both described their childhood as incredibly lonely. That breaks my heart because I was a stay-at-home mom. I was with them every day, every minute. Yet they were lonely because I was unable to truly connect with them. The words ‘I love you’ become meaningless when they’re not backed by actions. My children grew up feeling alone and anxious with no one to go to for help.”]

@psychcentral Finding Meaning to Cope with Life Struggles
[SEO: “When we go through a demanding and trying time, it can be tough to cope and stay self-assured. Going through emotionally demanding experiences like loss and trauma often leads to negative emotions such as grief, anger, fear and shame. It can be difficult to overcome this negativity and work through the pain when there is no apparent reason for what occurred. If we don’t work to heal and reproach our negative perspective, it becomes very difficult to move beyond the anger and grief that engulfs our day to day life.” …

“Meaning comes from moving beyond ourselves and connecting with something bigger and more profound than our immediate reality. When we experience loss or trauma we can use this sense of purpose to piece our life back together, and use the emotional energy to make a positive impact.”

@tlomauro The Upside of a Panic Attack
[SEO: “New research aims to debunk another myth: Panic attacks occur completely out of the blue. Though those who panic don’t realize it, their attacks are in fact foreshadowed by minute physiological signals, according to a study led by Southern Methodist University’s Alicia Meuret in the journal Biological Psychiatry. ‘The hour before panic onset was marked by subtle but significant waves of changes in patient’s breathing and cardiac activity, not just the moment of onset of the attack or even during the attack,’ she says.” See also the next post below about anxiety from the patient’s point of view.]

@HealthyPlace Anxiety. Does It Have to Be Like This?
[SEO: “Anxiety is not relieved by the sublime because it is preoccupation, so reassurance sounds like fantasy, misdirection. It is that pre-condition which needs treating if anxiety is to be overcome. It is not enough to comfort, or explain. Anxiety must be met with ingenuity. Whether we consider ourselves creative or not.”]

@goodthingz 27 Healthy Habits of Happiness
[SEO: I admit that I neglect posts on “happiness”. I often think the “happiness gurus” engage in a lot of magical thinking that’s entirely not relevant to my own life and situation. Although this post is labeled “happiness”, I like it because it fits neatly with a Theory of Anyway. These healthy habits may or may not make you happy, but they are good to cultivate anyway. The benefits may not be immediately apparent, but do it anyway. Increased awareness, empathy, compassion, accountability, and authenticity doesn’t have to equate to “happiness”, but they are all worthy goals. Why not just do it anyway?]

 
 

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Favorite TweetStuff (09/23/11) ~ Enjoy! ~

Another long week in which finding moments to relax and simply breathe was a challenge. Every Friday I offer up my favorite tweets, which may be simply beautiful, quirky, funny, or slightly bizarre, in hopes of offering a bit of respite from the rest of the week’s travails. Relax! and Enjoy! :)

 

@pourmecoffee “Keep head on a swivel. DOW, NASA satellite, Bachmann poll numbers, and Red Sox playoff hopes all crashing out there.”

@HealthyPlace “God writes a lot of comedy… the trouble is, he’s stuck with so many bad actors who don’t know how to play funny.” ~ Garrison Keillor

@ashwinsanghi Literary Love: 12 Works of Book Art and Architecture
[SEO: Recycling books into pieces of artwork. I like!]

@Tamavista “Integrity has no need of rules.” ~ Albert Camus

@Quotes4Writers “It’s simple. We’re where we should be, doing what we should be doing. Otherwise, we would be somewhere else, doing something else.” ~ R Stine

@pourmecoffee What does it feel like to fly over planet Earth? (youtube)
[SEO: Very cool! A time lapse video, beginning in the Pacific Ocean near Vancouver Island. The description below the video provides the complete itinerary.]

 

@MindfulBoston “Is Human Being a noun or a verb?”

@goodthingz San Francisco Made Out of 100,000 Toothpicks
[SEO: Just … wow!]

@HealthyPlace “Unbeing dead isn’t being alive.” ~ e. e. cummings

@TorontoWebDepot “Whatever you do will be insignificant, but it is very important that you do it.”

@goodthingz The World’s Largest Aquarium: Georgia Aquarium
[SEO: Love these pics! Especially where the viewing tunnel goes right through the bottom of the aquarium! It looks like school children can arrange to sleep overnight in that tunnel. (Kids lying on sleeping bags were my first clue. ;)) What a “wow” experience for them!]

@MindfulBoston “You can observe a lot by just watching.” ~ Yogi Berra

 

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