No Magic Wands

I know far too many people who are hurting in this economy, and have been for a very long time. Unemployment impacts real people, not numbers. It impacts choices, and squanders opportunities. And still, we are told it is somehow patriotic to buy something.

Things I’ve been buying lately:

  • “Forever” postage stamps — good for a one ounce letter no matter how much the price of stamps go up after you buy them.
  • Vitamins and generic Benadryl in bulk — much cheaper this way. (Disclaimer: I am just a happy customer with constant allergies, no other interest in Wonderlabs.)
  • Always stock up on “buy one get one free” sales if you would be buying the product anyway.
  • Never pay shipping on Amazon orders; consolidate orders to the $25 minimum for free shipping, or use their “subscription” ordering which always has free shipping regardless of the order total.

Things we’re not buying: movie tickets; Apple anything; vacations; any major discretionary item. We somehow must budget a new furnace into the mix before winter, which is about as non-discretionary as it gets.

If we get a “cash for old furnaces” subsidy, I am soooo there.

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Crystal Balls In August

In that perfected “no one could ever have imagined” gov-speak way, on the yuckiest three days of the year thus far, Massachusetts state public swimming pools were closed due to the lack of a crystal ball. And will remain closed till next year.

According to the public servant moron on local news last night (couldn’t find the video or his name), he “didn’t have a crystal ball” to tell him it might get a little toasty in mid-August. (Ever hear of The Weather Channel? Farmer’s Almanac? Do you actually live here?) Even if the 21 state pools were reopened, there isn’t enough chlorine or life guards to go with them.

So … how much does this guy get paid to plan ahead, even without the crystal ball?

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Dancing for Normal

When I was first diagnosed with diabetes about 20 years ago, my original hbA1c test was 13.4. The A1c gives a good snapshot measure of your blood sugar levels over the last three months, weighting heavier to the last six weeks.

The people who set the standards moved the goal posts several times through the years. The high end of the “normal” range was 7.0 at my first test, and my test was nearly double that. The upper range has since been lowered to 6.5, and now to 6.0.

Research shows that the lower your A1c is, the more you can stop diabetic complications in their tracks. Like, in some cases, the nerve endings in your toes can regenerate and you begin feeling them again. The lower you can maintain your blood sugar levels, the less likely you will be to go blind or lose kidney function. Or a foot.

My last A1c in May was 6.8. The best ever to date, and I was thrilled. But not nearly as much as I am today, where for the first time ever my A1c fell into “normal” range at 5.9. Woooohoooooo!

While I usually don’t think shooting for normal is all that great an idea — why settle for normal? — there are times, such as this one, where a happy dance is merited. And I’m dancin’!

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The "Routine" of Distractions

At what point does what you do routinely turn into a distraction?

Everything that interests me, I look at with a “dry sponge meet drip” mentality. No drop left behind. I want to know it all, whether it’s about the economy, the stock market, multiplicity, book marketing, the Red Sox, diabetes, cats, weight loss surgery, or general preparedness. I am often reading five disparate topics throughout the day, while keeping an eye on a mute CNBC. The more complex stuff I catch up on over the weekend.

It’s good to have interests. In my darkest days, I played video games endlessly. What I most sought was “mindlessness”. (Be really careful what you wish for.) As I slowly came out of that phase, I added interests and related activities to the point now where I have things to read/do 24 hours a day if I really wanted to.

So I went from “mindless” to “fascinated” in my usual all or nothing style. My head is booked up for the next six months! But I wonder if the “busy-ness” I created, and which certainly served a valid purpose in drawing me back into my own life, is now weighing on what I say I want to accomplish.

  • I want to get back into serious writing time.
  • I want to explore in depth how my journey has changed since Becoming One was first published.
  • I want to develop this blog and the “missing links” into a valuable resource.

Something that has always eluded me is the concept of balance. (Ya think?) That sounds almost like a non-sequitor, but it’s actually the key here. I need to find and “get” balance — without somehow turning it into something newly all-consuming.

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Two Weeks of Summer

Some people are affected seasonally in winter with depression. I, however, do my best work in the dead of winter, and keep the thermostat around 62. But summer heat makes me lethargic and the humidity here induces nausea. Not to mention, this laptop really heats up! (Which is a bonus heat source at 62. At 92, not so much.) I know it’s not normal for Boston, but I was loving the lack of a summer here, which didn’t show up till the end of July.

I am fortunate in that I don’t have to go out and about much in either extreme heat or cold. Can’t complain about my commute. But in really high steamy heat I lose motivation, and feel like I am just marking time till the next thunderstorm rolls in to cool us down.

Can we be done with summer now, please?

/whine off

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Triggers Inform You

Many abuse survivors are hyper-sensitive to things that remind them — or trigger a response in them — of a danger or grievous wrong that happened long ago. It feels fresh, though. It may appear quite innocently, as in a song not heard in years, or a certain smell from the kitchen or someone’s perfume. And if you don’t know why you are feeling it, your confusion and anxiety grow.

I used to run from triggers because I point blank did not wish to feel whatever was triggered yet again. I would put up a wall (literally, inside) to put that “bad” feeling or memory in a locked box. All that negativity was forced inward, and then always seeped into nightmares, inappropriate behaviors, and isolation. To avoid that set of consequences, I would just eat myself numb.

It works until it doesn’t.

Even now, when I’m 99% sure I know why I am being triggered, I zoom into the conditioned responses — which are really counter-productive and frustrating. The overriding need to control my diabetes has been a helpful stop at the “eating myself numb” place. But then I’m stuck with a swirl of feelings which need to be addressed and resolved. Sometimes many, many times, depending on how deep the wound goes.

The wound doesn’t just go away by itself. Facing those fears, and coming to healthy resolution about them, is part of the hard work of therapy. The process really sucks at times, and requires what feels like endless repetition to get it. But the lightness you feel when you get to the other side of it is liberating.

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