This week’s focus: Verbal Abuse Resources
I am honored to have my Twitter feed included in this list of 50 Best Twitter Feeds for Psychology Majors! Go check out the other 49, broken out into these categories: News; Organizations; Patients; and Professionals.
Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors is a weekly Friday feature. My selections are entirely subjective, and I know it will never be possible to include every great resource tweeted. But I can try! I’ve personally read all tweeted links, and believe them to be of great value.
Disclaimer: I am in no way responsible for content found on any other website. Stay safe, and don’t follow links if you believe you might be triggered by them. Also, I will not be re-checking links from older Best Tweets posts, and if the site’s archived URL is different from the one I’ve provided here, you may need to do a search on their site.
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@Tamavista “It is easier to build strong children
than to repair broken men.” ~ Frederick Douglass
Some Tweets to Ponder
@CarePathways “We have the power within us to heal ourselves. We do not have the power to heal our experience.”
@LillyAnn “A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering.” ~ Byron Katie
@PemaQuotes “As unwanted feelings and emotions arise, you actually breathe them in and connect with what all humans feel.”
@zebraspolkadots “The fear was that no one would help me. The peace came when I learned how to help myself.”
News and Views
@heykim Paterno’s family says it will appeal NCAA sanctions against Penn State; NCAA says no appeals for sanctions.
[SEO: Ooops. In case anyone thinks it’s extraordinary the lengths to which Paterno’s family will go to deny any wrongdoing, well, no. It plays out every day when abuse survivors go public (even if only to their own family).]
@DrKathleenYoung Boy Scout files reveal repeat child abuse by sexual predators
[SEO: Yet another ‘beyond reproach’ youth organization with secret files on pedophiles in their ranks. “Los Angeles Times review of Boy Scout documents shows that a blacklist meant to protect boys from sexual predators too often failed in its mission.” Clergy abuse, Boy Scouts, sports coaches… wake up, people! These are not random, blown out of proportion events. Child abuse is very common, if you’re willing to take a good look — but don’t look if you’re not willing to do anything about it.]
About Verbal Abuse
[*HealthyPlace.com maintains a wide range of very helpful mental health resources. I realized upon seeing a series of their tweets this week that I’ve been remiss in not spotlighting verbal abuse much here.]
@HealthyPlace Effects of Verbal Abuse on Children, Women, Men
[SEO: “Verbal abuse causes people to feel fear. However, victims may deny or not recognize their anxiety and feelings of wanting to get away as fear of the abuser. When the victim feels kindness or love from the abuser, they know that it is short-lived and abuse will reoccur. Victims live in a constant state of hyper-awareness, watching for clues of impending abuse. Victims can’t trust the smile of someone they love, and that is a very big deal.”
@lnw7 “The damage from verbal abuse is not easily visible but goes much deeper than physical abuse = soul erosion.”
@HealthyPlace Examples of Verbal Abuse
[SEO: “Most verbally abusive statements are camouflaged, but some are blatantly obvious. Verbal abuse underlies all other forms of abuse because words and tone can be easily manipulated to mean something other than what is said and ‘You misunderstood me!’ is such an easy way out.”]
@HealthyPlace Do you know Signs and Symptoms of Verbal Abuse?
[SEO: “First, let’s define verbal abuse signs as different from verbal abuse symptoms. Verbal abuse signs are your observations about the person who is verbally abusive towards you. Things the verbal abuser does and says that affect your thinking, beliefs, or emotions. Verbal abuse symptoms are your observations about you. Symptoms live inside of you, so others may or may not notice them.” This excellent post lists signs and symptoms; read this if you have any doubts or concerns about being verbally abused.]
The Rest of the Best
@patriciasinglet How to listen to a friend with PTSD
[SEO: “Listening to someone who has PTSD talk about what happened to them is a challenge. If your friend, lover, significant whatever, has post traumatic stress, they want to talk about what happened. They need to talk about it. You want to help and you’re willing to listen. Brace yourself. It won’t be easy.” An excellent post on how to listen and respond to a person with PTSD in ways which will both help him/her, and not cause you to go into overload.]
@PsychCentral Isolation and Solitude, Two Very Different Things
[SEO: (Note: I don’t know if you need to ‘like’ this page in order to see it.) PsychCentral asks on its Facebook page: “In your opinion, what’s the difference between solitude and isolation?” Most mental health resources give isolation a negative connotation, as do many of the 50+ commenters who replied on Facebook. Perhaps it’s just perspective, but I think both have a place in mental well-being — and mental illness. The trick is to know yourself, your limits, and to be able to apply them in moderation. What say you?]
@800273TALK Writing in a journal is not only therapeutic, but a great way to get to know yourself better and deal with issues.
[SEO: “Journaling helps you connect to your inner wisdom, which is especially important in our noisy world. … There are so many voices out there telling you who to be, how to act, what to do. It also comes in handy when those loud voices are coming from inside.” Post includes five writing prompts from Sandy Grason, author of the book Journalution: Journaling to Awaken Your Inner Voice, Heal Your Life and Manifest Your Dreams.]