This week’s focus: child abuse survivors (but helpful for any trauma survivor)
I am honored to have my Twitter feed included in this list of 50 Best Twitter Feeds for Psychology Majors! Go check out the other 49, broken out into these categories: News; Organizations; Patients; and Professionals.
Best Tweets for Trauma and PTSD Survivors is a weekly Friday feature. My selections are entirely subjective, and I know it will never be possible to include every great resource tweeted. But I can try! I’ve personally read all tweeted links, and believe them to be of great value.
Disclaimer: I am in no way responsible for content found on any other website. Stay safe, and don’t follow links if you believe you might be triggered by them. Also, I will not be re-checking links from older Best Tweets posts, and if the site’s archived URL is different from the one I’ve provided here, you may need to do a search on their site.
Please Share My Stuff! You can now “like” and “share” this post everywhere with the touch of a button or two at the end of the linked tweets! Feel free to do any or all of that! (And thanks.)
@marielhemingway “The world breaks us all.
Afterward, some are stronger
at the broken places.” ~ Ernest Hemingway
Some Tweets to Ponder
@WisdomalaCarte “Every thought is undermined, by all the history inside.” ~ Staind
@soulseedz “Sometimes I wish life was written in pencil so we could erase it and write it all over again.” ~ T Wanniarachi
@healthyplace “Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death.” ~ Rumi
@800273TALK “To me, if life boils down to one thing, it’s movement. To live is to keep moving.” ~ Jerry Seinfeld
@LillyAnn “Empathy creates the channel for your soul’s expression.”
@WisdomalaCarte “I’m lost, but I’m hopeful.” ~ Alanis Morissette
Child Abuse In the News
@SarahEOlson2009 April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. Learn how to create awareness in your community.
[SEO: Site offers a treasure trove of resources and tip sheets you can use to promote child abuse prevention awareness in your own community year-round. Includes a comprehensive list of topics in the left column of the site.]
@mjdub Yo! Philly News With church child-rape: trial set to open, tensions abound
[SEO: “The trial of Msgr. William J. Lynn, who for 12 years led the office that recommended priests’ assignments and monitored their conduct, marks the first in the nation for a church supervisor accused of covering up child sex abuse.”]
The Rest of the Best
@PsychCentral Will The Good Girl [or Boy] Please Stand Up
[SEO: Post describes a childhood wherein children are made to feel they must be perfect to be loved and lovable. (Or in some child abuse survivors’ lives, to survive.) “What those kids are left with later in life is that they can’t ever do the wrong thing. They have to be ‘perfect’ in the eyes of the world. They can’t complain when they feel overwhelmed. They aren’t allowed to have negative feelings towards a person in authority.”
“We have to stand up for this less perfect side of our personalities. This is what frees us from our depression, our judgmental beliefs against others, our own imprisonment that was first imposed on us by others, but becomes a self made prison as we grow up.”]
@BobbiEmel The courage to be (self) compassionate
[SEO: Describes an exercise to explore self-compassion, and discusses why it is so hard to do for many of us. Refutes four myths of self-compassion: that it is selfish; indulgent; doesn’t motivate as well as self-criticism; and is wimpy.
“In reality, allowing compassion toward yourself is one of the most courageous things you can do. It requires you to go against the grain of our culture and to express loving-kindness for yourself. … And, instead of using bravado and aggression to achieve goals, self-compassion creates the safety that is needed for you to gently critique yourself to meet your objectives and grow personally.”]
@goodthingz 75 Bold Tips for When Fear Grips Your Mind (via @theboldlife)
[SEO: “You can learn to live a bold life by choosing to let go of fear when you feel tortured by your own thoughts. When you can’t sleep at night, when you are obsessed with failing or not feeling good enough, decide to take action.”
This list of 75 ways to do some self-care may seem obvious, but I often need a reminder to take care of myself. When you need a boost away from anxiety and fear, do something else to break the cycle.]
@natasha_tracy Stress as a Precursor to Self-Harm
[SEO: “So we have to deal with that stress in order to get our nervous system back to normal. We do this in lots of ways: taking hot baths, ranting with a friend, dealing with the problem and yes, self-harming. Why would self-harming be in the list? Well, it seemed like the best idea at the time.” This post contains many links to other posts about stress, anxiety, and self-harm.
I’d like to add that self-harm comes in many disguises. For me, it’s eating certain foods which are comforting and make me zone out. I eat them knowing they impact my weight and my diabetes. I began this behavior (and many others) as a young child to cope with the abuse I was experiencing. I still have trouble not going there on auto-pilot.]
@healthyplace After the Diagnosis of Mental Illness: Fear of the Future
[SEO: “I am not asking you to embrace your illness, although this might happen at some point, but I do believe that allowing mental illness to define your life is terrible. It’s terrible because it does not allow us to move forward, to enjoy life on life’s terms, and live less in fear but in anticipation.”]
@zebraspolkadots Sharing; a new perspective…I hope you find the power in this message. “Please Don’t Call Me a Sexual Abuse Survivor”
[SEO: While I applaud the sentiment expressed here, I also know that most child abuse survivors go through phases of recovery. The first one may be recognizing the truth of their childhood — which takes time, can be excruciatingly painful and depressing, and creates doubt and distortions. As bad as it is, I don’t think anyone’s truth about themselves can be or should be glossed over. There will, however, be a time later when the following words will be looked at with hope for the future.
“I want discourse where I am no longer cast as a bystander in my own life. Therefore, I have made the decision for myself, and on behalf of the 1 out of 4 women and 1 out of 6 men like me, to no longer refer to myself as a survivor of sexual abuse. It keeps me stuck in the violence that was committed against me. It prevents me from seeing myself as an agent of positive change, in my life and in the lives of others. Furthermore, by reinforcing the moments of my most significant pain, it disconnects me from my joy.”]